How To Get My Cat Used To Being Held. If they have had a negative experience while being held before, then you need to swap it with a positive one. How to train your cat to love being held:

Work up to placing a hand on each side and then letting go. Train your cat to remain calm and hold still to be lifted by saying the word hold and laying your hand on the cat's side. Picking up a young kitten for just a few minutes each day will be enough and help to get them to associate being held as a secure and enjoyable experience.